Sadly, June died last year. Her positivity, joy and kindness remain an inspiration to everyone at Longfield. June, we remember you with the biggest smile. Thank you for your heartfelt support of our work.
Itโs hard not to smile when Juneโs around. If sheโs tired or in pain, you probably wonโt know it. Brimming with fun and lively conversation, June is a much-loved member of the Longfield family and a regular visitor to our Wellbeing Centre in Minchinhampton, near Stroud. โSheโs like the furniture around here!โ quips Pete, ducking to avoid a comedy clip around the ears from the wife he adores.
June and Pete met at a TV studio in 1981, then again at a party months later. This time, June wrote her phone number on the back of a bus ticket and put it in Peteโs front pocket. The rest, as they say, is history. For over 40 years, the couple has been inseparable. Itโs no surprise theyโre coping with Juneโs lung cancer together. โItโs our diagnosis, our fight,โ Pete explains. Juneโs diagnosis in November 2021 hit hard. She remembers Pete gasping when the oncologist quoted an average life expectancy of 12 months. โIt was a massive shock and we had some dark days. But Iโm not an โaverageโ sort of lady so I put that number aside and focused on living instead.โ
Where does this incredible spirit come from? โI look at whatโs good. Iโve had great medical care. Iโve got an amazing family. Cancer has brought Pete and I even closer.โ She takes his hand. โOur time together is finite and weโre here to enjoy ourselves.โ Like many of our visitors, June and Pete didnโt know what to expect when they first walked through Longfieldโs doors. Pete describes an โoasis of calm.โ โThe staff are wonderful, they really listen. Coming here is like walking into a big warm hug.โ June nods in agreement. She likes the fact that Longfield concentrates on the person – not their condition. โPlus, youโre here for husbands, wives, anyone who is caring for that person too,โ she says. โThatโs what makes Longfield so special.โ
The couple agree that taking part in wellbeing activities, including our Creative Space group, complementary therapies and counselling, have kept them focused on enjoying life. โEach activity is designed to help you cope and lift your spirits,โ says June. โLongfieldโs kept us smiling when things have felt heavy and difficult.โ
Ruth, June and Peteโs daughter, has noticed a difference in her parents since their first visit to our Wellbeing Centre. โTheyโve made new friends, had new experiences, and discovered this wonderful network of support,โ she says. โTheir social life is buzzing!โ Ruth tells me about Juneโs โnotbucketlist.โ โMum doesnโt see the point in ticking off a list of adrenaline-fuelled activities,โ she explains. โInstead, she finds meaning in simple pleasures: lunch in the garden, the sun on her face, the joy of connection.โ โIโve always been a positive person, although that positivity has been tested recently,โ says June. โThe trick is to shift your mindset. Ask yourself what you want from the life you have, not the one you imagined. Surround yourself with good people, have a giggle, have a cry, and celebrate each day.โ